P17 Do’s and Don’ts

• Do present with love / concern / caring.
• Do state specific facts: what—when—where—with whom.
• Do ask the person to accept help—do not ask him/her to stop drinking / using.

“I care _________________________________” or
“I’m concerned ____________________________” because
you did      (describe behavior specifically)     ” or
“_________________ when you were (include chemical involved)” and
“I want you to get help” or “I want both of us to get help.”

Don’ts:

• Do not be judgmental.

1. Discuss a problem.
2. Do not accuse person of being an alcoholic or addict.

• Do not ask questions.

Strategy to cope with reaction of the addicted person:

• Getting addicted person to intervention.
• Remind them of contract to listen.
• Move to next to the person intervening.
• Be prepared for reasons to “wiggle out.”
• Be prepared for “crocodile tears” and promises.
• Listen for capitulation.
• Consequences!