- Do present with love / concern / caring.
- Do state specific facts: what—when—where—with whom.
- Do ask the person to accept help—do not ask him/her to stop drinking / using.
“I care _________________________________” or
“I’m concerned ____________________________” because
“you did (describe behavior specifically) ” or
“_________________ when you were (include chemical involved)” and
“I want you to get help” or “I want both of us to get help.”
- Discuss a problem.
- Do not accuse person of being an alcoholic or addict.
- Getting addicted person to intervention.
- Remind them of contract to listen.
- Move to next to the person intervening.
- Be prepared for reasons to “wiggle out.”
- Be prepared for “crocodile tears” and promises.
- Listen for capitulation.