Former Counselor Finds Grace, New Skill During Stroke Recovery

John SniffenAlumni Reunion, La Hacienda, Treatment Team8 Comments

amy ducharme la hacienda reunion art

Former La Hacienda Collegiate Program counselor Amy DuCharme holds the design she created for Reunion 2020.

Amy DuCharme (Madrid) had just arrived at her Kerrville home that hot August 2017 day following her shift as a women’s collegiate counselor at La Hacienda.

“I was home about 10 minutes. My partner, Lee, had also come home. He said something to me, and I put my hands up on my head because it suddenly hurt and I blacked out,” she recalls.

She had suffered a massive stroke.

Amy regained consciousness in a San Antonio hospital, to find herself in a four-point restraint and utterly terrified. She could not speak or write, and her right side was paralyzed.

The reason for the restraints became evident as she learned how first Lee and then a doctor at Methodist Hospital acted quickly to save her life and minimize the stroke’s damage.

Gradually she became aware of medical people standing around her. Then she saw her partner Lee, her brother and finally her mother.

“Of course, I whaled or some sort of horrific sound came out of my mouth!” she recalls.

Finding Grace in Recovery

Amy—who had worked 18 years at La Hacienda helping people recover from addiction—was faced at age 45 with recuperating from a major medical crisis.

“My whole life turned upside-down,” she says.

She spent a month in the hospital, then five weeks in extended care.

“I didn’t want to go into extended care, but Lee said, ‘What do you tell your girls when you counsel them to go to extended care?’ I knew then I had to go.”

She received excellent care in speech, occupational and physical therapy. “Everybody was so kind and helpful.”

That is why Amy has GRACE tattooed on her right shoulder. “That’s there because I have had such grace around me during this whole experience.”

Stroke recovery is a long road, but she looks forward to speaking normally, having more of her physical ability return, and, most importantly, getting her mind back on track.

Making a New Life

In the meantime, Amy’s not sitting around; she is busy building a new life. She volunteers at the Dietert Center in Kerrville, helping seniors. She bakes cakes for Lee’s restaurant.

And she has discovered something new in herself – a talent for drawing and making art. This new gift is her passion now.

She learned while in the hospital that art is very therapeutic and good for healing the brain. She works in multi-media and is in the process of converting a guest bedroom into a studio.

Misses Counseling

Amy misses counseling young women–“my girls,” she calls them.

She says she didn’t teach them to be sober. “I taught them to have self-respect and self-esteem.”

Director of Clinical Services Janet Blackburn affirms that connection.

“As a counselor, Amy had a remarkable gift for reaching collegiate-age women. She is genuine, and she stands her ground.”

Her ‘Girls’ Respond

Amy says part of recovering from the stroke involves having to build a new identity. “My identity was built upon working with my girls. They meant everything to me.”

The feeling is mutual; her “girls” love Amy.

After her stroke, one former patient even snuck into her room at the hospital to see her.

“My speech therapist said that when I saw my visitor, I stopped in my tracks, lit up, and we embraced and cried.”

Reunion Artwork

Through her new love of art, Amy is reconnecting with La Hacienda.

“[Director of Business Development] Elizabeth Olson called and asked me to do the artwork for the Reunion 2020 t-shirts. I was astounded. I said, ‘Yes, I’m on it!’”

Amy shared eight possible images with the Reunion planning team. Together they chose one that relates both to the year 2020 (and the natural connection to perfect vision) and the Reunion theme: “The most satisfactory years of your existence lie ahead.” (Big Book, p. 152)

 “Having Amy be a part of the Reunion 2020 design is really the essence about what La Hacienda is: second chances, hope, helping each other and creating new life,” says Elizabeth.

UPDATE-Reunion 2020 will not be held out of caution related to novel coronavirus.

For information.

8 Comments on “Former Counselor Finds Grace, New Skill During Stroke Recovery”

  1. Wow what a great story. We are all so proud of you sister, not many people could come out the other side of this the way you have.
    You are an inspiration to so many Amy, and I can’t wait to see what’s next for you.
    Keep doing what you are doing!

    Your big brother

  2. The story of a love of life and the courage to endure what is sometimes monumental and unattainable to others. Let Amy be a testament to all those that feel like “giving up.”?? You can do it!

  3. So often in recovery we hear the expression “One day at at time.” Amy are living it ! I’m so proud of you. Blessings sent your way.

  4. I feel so incredibly blessed to have been one of Amy’s girls. She fought for me in a time I wasn’t sure I was worth fighting for anymore. She was instrumental in my early sobriety and to this day I always reach out to her on my anniversary. I wouldn’t be sober today without her guidance and support in the beginning. I’m so proud of how she’s fought to rebuild her life, just like she taught me how to do. Love her!!

  5. As a stroke survivor myself, and a friend of Amy’s I find her story inspirational and motivating. I love her artwork and wish I could collect it all. She is proof that grace and blessings often come from unexpected places

  6. I’m sending you many positive and healing thoughts, and lots of love. You helped my daughter, Brittany, so much. You helped both Ray and me too by offering such great advice. Thank you, Amy. Take good care of yourself.

    Much love,

    Mary Bass

  7. Amy was instrumental in my recovery. Thinking of her as she continues to recover, and love seeing her new passion for art!

    Ashley Spitzer Konarik

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.